Husband, Liar, Sociopath: How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned by O.N. WardCould you or someone you know be married to a sociopath? The author of this book was, but it took her twenty years to figure it out. She wrote this book to make sure the same thing doesn’t happen to other people. Onna thought the classmate she married was her Prince Charming—kind, honest, loving, and intellectually vibrant—but she was wrong. That “spark” she felt wasn’t true love, it was a trap—custom designed to ensnare her. Onna’s repayment for investing twenty years into her marriage and unwittingly providing her husband with a façade of normalcy was ongoing gaslighting and chronic emotional assault, all twisted and framed so she would attribute them to her own apparent shortcomings. By the time she understood what was really happening, her emotional, physical and financial health were in peril. Why did her husband do it? Because that’s what sociopaths do.
Sociopaths are far more common than most people imagine. To help others recognize the subtle warning signs that they might be in the crosshairs of a well-camouflaged sociopath, Onna shares her story while detailing the techniques her ex-husband used to control her behavior and erode her self-esteem. She also explores the psychological research regarding why such methods are so effective, why it is hard to understand what is happening while you are in the situation, why the cumulative effect is so ruinous, and, more importantly, why you must escape if you suspect you are in a similar situation. This insightful, cautionary tale is a must read for men and women alike.
My Husband Lies to Me
And when that someone happens to be your spouse, the sense of betrayal is even more profound. How can you rebuild trust when your spouse has lied to you? There are many reasons your spouse may be dishonest with you. People often lie not necessarily to deceive, but to protect their own ego. But by the same token, they have to be willing to start to come clean, because regardless of the reasons for their dishonesty, lying is a toxic practice that will eventually break down your marriage. When someone is actively deceptive on a large scale, is deliberately deceiving you and hurting you and others, they have holes in their conscience.
If the lies were to cover up his drinking or smoking or who he was with, it can shake you to your core. Your friends and family will likely add fuel to the fire by assuring you that him lying to you is a serious problem. But before you give him an ultimatum or stop trusting him completely, consider an approach that will preserve the connection between you first. Click To Tweet. Then one day she smelled smoke on him, but he reassured her that it was because he had been talking to his friend Joe while Joe was smoking.
My Husband Lies to Me
A re you married to a liar? If you are, chances are good that your relationship will be tried by the mistrust, bitterness and anger that lying causes. Read on to find out how to deal with a lying spouse. It can be very hard to understand why your partner would lie to you. So how do you deal with a partner who doesn't tell the truth? Knowing his motive is crucial to how you respond — and whether and how you forgive. Why People Lie We appear to be hard-wired to lie — and it begins early in life; children as young as age 2 may lie when they discover that words can do amazing things.
Relationships are built on trust. Yeah, yeah — you've probably heard this a million times before, but that's because it's true! Without a solid foundation of trust, accountability, and reliability, your relationship is on rocky grounds. So, if your significant other has been acting sus as of late, what should you do? Are there any telltale signs to look out for when your partner is lying to you? Being lied to is one of the most frustrating feelings, especially when it's coming from someone you really care about.