Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Quotes by Karyl McBride
The Damage A Narcissistic Mother Can Do To Her Son. #14 by. John W Rathwell
8 Toxic Ways Narcissistic Mothers Emotionally Abuse Their Children
Learning how to understand and make peace with your childhood is one of the most healing and empowering experiences you could ever go through. When we were children, we looked up to our parents for support, encouragement, nurturing and love. But when we were denied these things, we developed a variety of beliefs, behavioral patterns, and coping mechanisms to help us survive in such a difficult environment. As adults, we often play out these same coping mechanisms, often to our own detriment. The first step in healing this soul loss is to be willing to explore what you went through as a child. This becomes a strengthening and rejuvenating process. This causes you to constantly doubt yourself and any feelings you have about them.
Narcissism involves having excessive admiration and grandiose opinions of oneself. Clinically speaking, narcissists are selfish, entitled, and obsessed with being well-regarded. They can be extremely difficult to work with or have a relationship with due to their inability to empathize with others and admit when they make mistakes. Their over-inflated sense of self makes it difficult to maintain a healthy, long-term relationship. Narcissists who become parents view their children as a reflection of themselves. They push their children towards success in the areas of life they deem valuable.
How Do You Deal With a Narcissistic Mother or Father?
Sons of Narcissistic Mothers--Exploitation of Innocence
Our mothers are the foundation of our first attachment to the world. As infants, we learn by her example how to bond with others. We derive our initial sense of our self-worth from how she cares for us, nurtures us, protects and shields us from harm. When this initial attachment is instead tarnished by psychological violence, it can leave scars that can take a lifetime to heal. An abusive, narcissistic mother sets up her daughters and sons for inevitable danger due to the nature of her disorder.
Like any child of narcissist, the sons of narcissistic mothers SoNMs will be treated as either the golden child, the scapegoat, or the forgotten child see Roles in our page on The Narcissistic Family. It is often said or written that the golden child will become a narcissist themselves. While this is possible, there is no data that we know of to support this. Overall, it would appear that children of narcissistic parents have greater chances of becoming either narcissists, codependent, or have any other personality disorders. These symptoms will be the clues that force your attention inward to recognize your need for healing.