Codependency and passive aggressive behavior

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Passive Aggressive Quotes (28 quotes)

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Passive-aggressive people act passive, but express aggression covertly. Their unconscious anger gets transferred onto you, and you become frustrated and furious. Passive-aggressive partners are generally codependent, and like codependents, suffer from shame and low self-esteem. Their behavior is designed to please to appease and counter to control. You may be experiencing abuse, but not realize it, because their strategy of expressing hostility is covert and manipulative, leading to conflict and intimacy problems. Personality disorders are persistent and enduring. This behavior commonly reflects hostility which the individual feels he dare not express openly.

Ahab is passive. Jezebel is aggressive. Together, they create a deadly, codependent power couple who wants to steal, kill and destroy anyone who stands in their way. Although Jezebel is the aggressor of this corrupt codependent couple, Ahab is aggressive in his own right—just not outwardly so. Understanding the concept of codependency is vital to recognizing the Jezebel-Ahab dynamic. Merriam-Webster's dictionary defines codependency as a "psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition"; or, more broadly, "dependence on the needs of or control by another.

In healthy relationships there will be a mutual inter- dependency between couples. You rely on each other emotionally, economically and morally in terms of family and expectations. Pete and Harry have been together 6 years. Pete is an IT consultant and earns well. Harry is passive aggressive and overly dependent on his partner Pete. He expects Pete to take responsibility for paying the bills. If Pete pushes too far Harry feels dominated and controlled something he hates.

Codependents do not know how to emotionally disconnect or avoid significant relationships with individuals who are selfish, controlling, and harmful to them. They find partners who are experienced with their dance style: a dance that begins as thrilling and exciting, but ends up rife with drama, conflict, and feelings of being trapped.
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Passive-aggressive behavior is frustrating. So why do people resort to such relationship-damaging behavior? And why is it so hard to change the pattern? She backs off. Time passes. The task is still not done.

Codependency is a concept that is suddenly gaining traction, although it is not a new concept; "Codependent No More," the seminal work by Melody Beattie, was written in , 25 years ago. Prior to this, the term was used solely by those in the psychiatry field, and it has only just recently begun to find its place as a social idiom; it is quite possible that you clicked on this page looking for a definition of codependency, and in this you are not alone -- many sufferers would not be able to enlighten you. There are a few good definitions of codependency in the introductions to articles with the term in their titles, on wikiHow and elsewhere; but even these adequate definitions cannot be applied in a blanket-like fashion, as they attempt to describe a highly amorphous, human condition. While these definitions will be provided in Step 1, understand that codependency is a disease that often cannot be very effectively attacked head on, for reasons that hopefully will become clear, but that it is possible to understand, and overcome codependency, whether it be yours, or someone else's. It is often said that we are all codependent, sometimes.

The recent comments on the blog have given me an awareness of an aspect of infidelity that has rarely been discussed in most of the books or websites that I have read. This is understandable as one could write entire books on these subjects alone. I apologize to everyone who follows this blog because I feel in some ways we have not provided you with all the information you need to recover from this trauma. The purpose of this blog is to share our own journey and our own thoughts, feelings, observations, resources , successes and mistakes along the way. I feel that Doug and I have been very successful because both of us have been able to take a good look at ourselves and our behaviors, and through communication and persistence have changed the way we relate to each other, adjusted our priorities and have basically invented a new marriage. We both feel a tremendous amount of happiness and satisfaction as a result.

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  1. Passive-aggressive partners are generally codependent, and like codependents, suffer from shame and low self-esteem. Their behavior is designed to please to.

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