Give and Take by Chris RaschkaA clever story of greed and goodness, and the art of finding the in-between, from two-time Caldecott Medalist Chris Raschka, creator of the New York Times bestselling A Ball for Daisy.
Watch the farmer’s ear.
Now watch the two small, clever fellows in pointy hats whispering into it, first one, then the other.
Give and Take. They cannot agree.
Listen now to the farmer talk back—and, in this story of apples, pumpkins, pigs, and a final surprise, he just might get the better of both of them.
Lessons learned from Give and Take
Once the balance between give and take is broken, difficulties arise and partners feel they are not getting too much from their relationship. The real problem is, in fact, not giving enough — you reap what you sow, as the biblical saying puts it. Have you ever been in a relationship where one person did nothing but give and the other only received selfishly? Joe and Sarah are a married couple. Sarah does the housekeeping by herself, runs errands, and makes sure Joe has everything he needs, from preparing his breakfast to ironing his shirts.
It is an inspiring book and I found myself taking too many notes while reading it. Now I want to summarize my learnings, to internalize them, but also to give others access to it. In his book, Adam Grant dives deep into the spectrum of altruistic to selfish personalities. Anyone, who reads the book, might be able to identify his or her own personal traits. It can differ in your personal and professional lives. Moreover, as Adam Grant shows, you can apply the principles of giving and taking even in companies or communities. The book shows and encourages the benefits of giving instead of taking.
INEKE VAN LINT
How we change what others think, feel, believe and do. Life, as they say, is give and take. You put things in and you take things out.
I am self-employed psychologist for children, adolescents and adults. For individual consultations you can contact me in Athus Belgium , or via Skype, telephone or email. You can also join one of the many workshops I organize in Belgium and abroad, or read one of my books. If you are like most people, then you too have this strange tendency to wait for others to fill in your needs. It can even be fatal and needlessly ruin a relationship!
A common complaint from many women is their certainty that they give more in their friendships than they receive. This perceived give-and-take imbalance has many possible reasons. Chief among them? We are all wired to give in different ways. With the exchange of money, we know how much is spent and received. In relationships, few things have such tangible and agreed-upon value.