The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better by Gretchen RubinIn this groundbreaking analysis of personality type, bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life.
During her multibook investigation into understanding human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question How do I respond to expectations? we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively.
More than 600,000 people have taken her online quiz, and managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people make significant, lasting change.
The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if youve ever thought...
· People can rely on me, but I cant rely on myself.
· How can I help someone to follow good advice?
· People say I ask too many questions.
· How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask or who keeps telling me what to do?
With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative. Its far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.
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THE FOUR TENDENCIES
And when we know how other people respond to expectations, we understand them far more effectively, as well. We can make better decisions, meet deadlines, meet our promises to ourselves, suffer less stress, and engage more deeply with others. Managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people reduce conflict and make significant, lasting change. This short, free Quiz poses questions meant to identify your Tendency. It takes about ten minutes to complete; answers are confidential.
Of everything I learned about habits and human nature from working on my book Better Than Before , the most challenging thing I figured out -- and the insight I'm most proud of -- is my Four Tendencies framework. See below for a quick overview. It took me months of rumination to make sense of everything I'd observed, and to fit it into a system that accounted for everything. I'll never forget the thrill I felt when everything at last fell into place. I felt like I'd uncovered something like the Periodic Table of the Elements. My framework is balanced, consistent, encompassing, and predictive -- if I do say so myself.
According to Gretchen Rubin, people fall under one of four behavioral tendencies. Understanding your tendency can help pinpoint what the issue is and Gretchen is a three-time 1 New York Times bestselling author, podcaster, and speaker. She is the founder of GretchenRubin. Curious which tendency you are?
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Rubin is one of the most thought-provoking and influential writers on the linked subjects of habits, happiness, and human nature. A member of Oprah's SuperSoul , Rubin has an enormous following, in print and online; her books have sold more than two million copies worldwide, in more than thirty-five languages, and on her popular daily blog, gretchenrubin. - When you start asking questions about the best strategies for self-improvement, there's one frustrating sentence you'll hear over and over again: "It depends. It can sound like a cop-out, but in reality, no blanket technique will help everyone lose weight, start exercising, be more productive, and spend more time with their family.